Youll be an amazing mother sis, dont worry. itll be a little hard in the beginning but youll totally get the hang of quickly.IVe raised my little sister ever since I was 13– and it was a little hard but I found it nice and all. nowinshAllah when one day ill be a mother it wontbe as difficult. inshAllah. Just read a LOT!:) and its always nice to take advice from others.

Asalam aliakaaum sister

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InshaAllah may your child be the coolness of your eyes, and may Allah guide you to be an amazing mother

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SubhanAllah I completely stumbled across this by accident or rather, the Qadar of Allah and Alhamdulillah for it.

Firstly can I just say Alf Mabrook, I’m sure you’ll be a wonderful mother bithnillahi ta’la.

Secondly, I never thought I’d come across an article that I felt spoke 2 me in such a way. Many times ppl forget or maybe just don’t discuss such feelings. Its almost a taboo to be worried (along with a host of other emotions) when thinking about the prospect of motherhood. I suppose it’s more of a reality now for you. I pray Allah will make it easy for you and that the whole experience will be a blessing for u Ameen.

All my love,

Fatima (ur buddy from London)

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Your sincerity, sense of responsibility and trust in Allah (swt) will insha’Allah help your raise a righteous, well-rounded Muslim!

Reading your post reminds me of `Imran’s wife and her wish to protect and devote her child to the servitude of Allah. Her du`aas and longing for Allah’s help began even before giving birth, and Allah accepted her du`aas and made her daughter, Maryam (`alayha assalam), the most pure and chaste woman to have ever lived on earth.

SubhanAllah, what a great example for us to follow!

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Surat Aali `Imran (35-37)

(Remember) when the wife of ‘Imran said, “My Lord, indeed I have pledged to You what is in my womb, consecrated [for Your service], so accept this from me. Indeed, You are the Hearing, the Knowing.”

Then when she delivered her, she said: “O my Lord! I have delivered a female child,” – and Allah knew better what she delivered, – “And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from Shaytan, the outcast.”

So her Lord accepted her with goodly acceptance, and He made her grow in a good manner …

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Wa’salaam
Sammer

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Mabrook, firstly. May Allah aid you on this new path. Ameen

It is very hard but where you are right now is a good place. Don’t overwhelm yourself but, and I say this after having two kids and lots of ups and downs, DO YOUR HOMEWORK NOW! Most importantly, work on your nafs now. Whatever you feel you are not consistent in that you need to work on, work on now. Beat down those nafs woman. It will come in handy when you have children in so many ways. And one of the most important things children need is consistency in their lives. So if you want them to be consistent, work on it now. I’m repeating myself but how I wish someone would have given me this advice when I was pregnant. And recite Qur’an often. Alhamdulillah, it is a Rahma that Ramadan is approaching. Take advantage of it. I don’t think any mother realizes how well they raised their children until they are raised, but these things are crucial.

I also want to share a reminder that Shaykh Hamza Karamali gave us (I’ve been quoting it a lot so apparently it hit the heart). He told us that fire doesn’t burn and we don’t learn. Allah makes the fire burn when He pleases (remember with Ibrahim alayhis salam?) and we are taught. So turn to Allah and ask of His Mercy as often as you can, be open minded (parenting requires open mindedness!) and be sincere. Insha’Allah Allah will guide you in the best direction. Alhamdulillah for being human.

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