Comments on: Approaching a guy about marriage? http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/ Mon, 26 Jul 2010 15:48:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Noor http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-14243 Noor Thu, 17 Jun 2010 04:16:28 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-14243 Salam Alaikum.. mashalla what you said is totally true... You have to select the right time, the right person and the right environment and all that within the a certain degree.. but unfortunately this doesn't happen in reality that happened only in an ideal world that is not exist..<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-14243">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Salam Alaikum.. mashalla what you said is totally true… You have to select the right time, the right person and the right environment and all that within the a certain degree.. but unfortunately this doesn’t happen in reality that happened only in an ideal world that is not exist..

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]]> By: hamid http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-14241 hamid Thu, 17 Jun 2010 02:23:07 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-14241 salamunalaikum. Yes. Its easy to fall in love with someone.But falling in love with the right person,at the right time,to the right degree,for the right purpose and in the right environment is not easy for many but also not impossible for many few.Success in marriage dosent’ come merely by choosing the right mate but by being the right spouse.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-14241">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> salamunalaikum.

Yes. Its easy to fall in love with someone.But falling in love with the right person,at the right time,to the right degree,for the right purpose and in the right environment is not easy for many but also not impossible for many few.Success in marriage dosent’ come merely by choosing the right mate but by being the right spouse.

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]]> By: Megan http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-14223 Megan Sat, 12 Jun 2010 08:00:48 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-14223 I am going to be releasing a special video next week on this subject - all about whether or not a sister should initiate the marriage process (always with a wali supporting her) through a 3rd party. If any sisters are interested, visit the link above to join my "fan" page, and get on the mailing list as well. Jazakum Allahu Khairan :)<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-14223">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> I am going to be releasing a special video next week on this subject – all about whether or not a sister should initiate the marriage process (always with a wali supporting her) through a 3rd party.

If any sisters are interested, visit the link above to join my “fan” page, and get on the mailing list as well.

Jazakum Allahu Khairan :)

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]]> By: saffy http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-14222 saffy Fri, 11 Jun 2010 23:57:49 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-14222 Just have the right intention, be brief with him to the point. Brother, are you married? Are you interested in getting married? I definately think I would like to get to know you more. Good luck.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-14222">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Just have the right intention, be brief with him to the point. Brother, are you married? Are you interested in getting married? I definately think I would like to get to know you more. Good luck.

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]]> By: Bint Ma'mun http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-13411 Bint Ma'mun Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:58:35 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-13411 Sister Nur, Assalamualaikum. I would just make dua'a in Salat for guidance and answers. Dreams are not always meant to be interpretted. As far as your age goes...going through the process of a proposal forces you (in a positive way) to grow up. Also, many times, just looking for the right spouse takes a long time. Don't worry about your age. Some people feel as if they will not be ready until 30. Marriage is half of your deen:) May Allah make this process easier and pleasant for you. Ameen.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-13411">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Sister Nur,

Assalamualaikum. I would just make dua’a in Salat for guidance and answers. Dreams are not always meant to be interpretted. As far as your age goes…going through the process of a proposal forces you (in a positive way) to grow up. Also, many times, just looking for the right spouse takes a long time. Don’t worry about your age. Some people feel as if they will not be ready until 30. Marriage is half of your deen:) May Allah make this process easier and pleasant for you. Ameen.

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]]> By: Nur http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-13374 Nur Tue, 26 Jan 2010 05:38:19 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-13374 Salam. refering to umm-mohammed, what if we get a dream of someone? I got a weird dream last few weeks. Even so I'm not really thinking of marriage at that time. Even so, I'm not ever really thinking of the guy. It's kinda weird to have that dream. I'm not so sure whether it is a true dream but as far as my observed, there's nothing bad with the dream. Furthermore, I am in wuduk before I sleep and while reading book about iman until I fall asleep.. (the night I got the dream). Indeed it is not a bad dream. But still until today I trying to figure out what's the meaning of the dream. Not bad enough that the guy in the dream was just someone surround me. I have no idea whether is it a hint from Allah. I do istikharah for many times. But I'm not sure what to do next. i do have the intention for marriage. however, considering whether I'm still young to face the responsibility and challenges that might be. (goin to turn to 20 this year). I'm looking foward for His answer to my prayer.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-13374">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Salam.

refering to umm-mohammed, what if we get a dream of someone? I got a weird dream last few weeks. Even so I’m not really thinking of marriage at that time. Even so, I’m not ever really thinking of the guy. It’s kinda weird to have that dream. I’m not so sure whether it is a true dream but as far as my observed, there’s nothing bad with the dream. Furthermore, I am in wuduk before I sleep and while reading book about iman until I fall asleep.. (the night I got the dream). Indeed it is not a bad dream. But still until today I trying to figure out what’s the meaning of the dream. Not bad enough that the guy in the dream was just someone surround me. I have no idea whether is it a hint from Allah. I do istikharah for many times. But I’m not sure what to do next. i do have the intention for marriage. however, considering whether I’m still young to face the responsibility and challenges that might be. (goin to turn to 20 this year). I’m looking foward for His answer to my prayer.

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]]> By: umm-mohammed http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-12543 umm-mohammed Sun, 10 Jan 2010 23:10:46 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-12543 Aameen to maryams duas. Im sure u will be v happy 2gether, if its the will of Allah. I suggest u do istikhara 1st though. You wont necessarily get a dream, but u may get a good feeling of some sort. May Allah guide u both to wot is best - aameen.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-12543">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Aameen to maryams duas. Im sure u will be v happy 2gether, if its the will of Allah. I suggest u do istikhara 1st though. You wont necessarily get a dream, but u may get a good feeling of some sort.
May Allah guide u both to wot is best – aameen.

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]]> By: Maryam http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-12375 Maryam Fri, 08 Jan 2010 03:30:37 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-12375 Assalamu alaikum sis, I am not in any position to give any advice whatsoever! I did want to tell you one thing: if you do get married to this guy at the end, HOPE YOU HAVE THE BEST MARRIAGE EVER! salams!<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-12375">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Assalamu alaikum sis,

I am not in any position to give any advice whatsoever! I did want to tell you one thing: if you do get married to this guy at the end, HOPE YOU HAVE THE BEST MARRIAGE EVER! salams!

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]]> By: Sharissa http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-10672 Sharissa Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:44:20 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-10672 especially* :)<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-10672">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> especially*

:)

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]]> By: Sharissa http://www.muslimahsource.org/new-from-our-experts/approaching-a-guy-about-marriage/#comment-10671 Sharissa Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:43:23 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1246#comment-10671 Khadija got her (female) friend to ask for her. But you're right Abdullah... people complicate things that shouldn't be complicated. As far as not having a mehram and needing one is concerned... The DR. is right in suggesting that you can go to your local Imam and ask him to mediate for you. HOWEVER, this issue really needs to be looked at further... because a number of converts don't have a male Muslim relative and it is quite difficult... easpecially if you live in an area with little to no Muslims.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-10671">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Khadija got her (female) friend to ask for her. But you’re right Abdullah… people complicate things that shouldn’t be complicated. As far as not having a mehram and needing one is concerned… The DR. is right in suggesting that you can go to your local Imam and ask him to mediate for you. HOWEVER, this issue really needs to be looked at further… because a number of converts don’t have a male Muslim relative and it is quite difficult… easpecially if you live in an area with little to no Muslims.

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