Can I Give up Hijab?
August 9, 2010 by Sammer Z
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Salaam,
Im an 18 year old muslim girl.I have been wearing hijab from the age of 12.I understand the reason behind the obligation of hijab and i respect it but I never liked it.I have really beautiful hair and i would love to show it.My intention is not to attract male attention.I just want to look good and feel confident.My parents have alway sent me to the best of schools and in both my high schools i was the only or one of the two girls wearing hijab..I have been accepted into a reputed college and im leaving nhome next month and i feel i ll be the only hijabi there..I just want to live without the head veil for some time but i have been controlling this temptation for a while..Im also a very good orator and i dont like going on stage with the head veil.I just dont feel beautiful with the head veil..I need your help..i feel like giving up the head veil.How to stop myself from doing this?
My du’a’ for you that Allah strengthen your heart and soul until eternity.
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Good answer
I think if you’ve already put it on, putting it back on when and if you feel ready again will be harder. But it’s a really personal choice and nobody should tell you what you should do, you should do it for God only if you feel ready to do it for Him alone.
Assalamu Alaikum
Please read articles on Hijab which give different points of views at the following website:
Jazakallah,
hi,
The Bible says that women do not need a veil or headscarf to cover their hairs. What the Bible means is that LONG hair is an honour to God. A man should bear short hair, like the priests in Israel had and like Jesus had. (Therefore the long haired jesus at the Turin Shroud is fake). So long hair is enough but even this is NOT an obligation.
Hi, I disagree. Your own bible says that a women has to cover her head, or they will SHAVE off her hair. Your own bible say that Jan. So you should google that before representing your religon here.
Have you forgot that for 50years ago christan females use to cover their head, or that TODAY you will find nun in your church.?
Nuns are only found in one sect of Christianity- Catholicism- and they make up an extremely small minority of that sect. As opposed to a recent poll finding that almost 40% of Muslim Americans wear hijab.
If you really like your hair and you really want to show it off, I think you should. There’s nothing wrong in gathering all of your friends and looking nice but guys have no right to see something so precious, they don’t deserve it. I think it’s amazing that you’ve been keeping it up almost all by yourself and I’ll tell you from experience that if you stick firm to your beliefs despite what people say, Allah will raise your status among people and He will cause everyone to respect you inshAllah.
Can you take off your hijab? Of course you can. It is your choice alone. Only you know what your intentions are. This is something you must deceide for yourself.
To the sister who posed the question, please stay strong! What you are feeling are the whispers and temptations from shaytan. Make tons of du`aa to Allah that He keeps you firm and makes you feel proud of your Islamic identity. When you wear hijab, men will respect you for your thoughts and intelligence and wisdom, not your outward beauty. You will be an example to other Muslimahs, and people might become interested in knowing about Islam through you.
Remember that it is your personal choice to keep or take off the hijab, but so is praying five times a day, fasting, and all other worships. It’s a choice whether or not we want to obey and please God, and we have to trust Allah’s wisdom because He created us and knows what’s best for us. Pray that He shows you the benefit of wearing the hijab.
Also, remember that eventhough your intentions are not to attract male attention, it will have that effect and you will be responsible for all the men who look at you and feel desire.
By the way, you’re not the only one going through this. Here’s an excellent response to a similar question from another sister. It might help you in your struggle.
http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/taking-off-the-hijab/
May Allah be with you!!
It is your own choice and its up to you to decide what type of life you want to live, either in obedience to the One who created you or disobedience. Life is short. Choose between short term happiness or eternal bliss in the Akhirah. Since you say yourself you have attended the best schools and have a good education then naturally you should be able to ‘do the math’ in this decision you make and make the right one?
Obeying Allaah’s commands are not always easy, but we have to become worthy of paradise somehow, do we not?
May Allaah protect you sister.
Wow. So your answer, that women who don’t wear hijab are showing their beauty to “be displayed like an object for sale for anyone to look at and watch”? That’s a bit judgmental for anyone who is not Muslim. For that matter, anyone, regardless of religion. Non-muslims have empty hearts (“Whose hearts are not so filled with his love”)? The girl in questions seems to be choosing her own path and you are shaming her for choosing individuality over blind conformity.
assalam alaikoum,
Sister, know that anyone who has a mustard seed’s weight of pride will not enter jannah, as we learn from the hadith. “Showing off your hair” does not exactly sound humble. It also sounds superficial: would you like people to judge you based on your hair? Even if people like you, isn’t God’s love more important?
About having a choice: you have a choice to obey and disobey Allah. Yes humans have free will. However, for each choice there are consequences.
Shaitan likes to take things a step at a time. Like a frog in warming water. First it is looking more like “them” (i.e. be more materialistic, will ya?). Then it becomes acting like them, then believing like them (ie. all that matters is your heart etc.) Don’t fall for his trap sister?
Mashallah you were accepted into college, but know that there is something more important than a degree, it is safeguarding your faith. If you feel that being alone will be a danger to your faith, then don’t go. A degree is for this world, but faith (including actions such as salat) will affect the hereafter.
Who in their right mind would adopt the dress of disobedience to Almighty God? Sister I know you are smart and you can reason Shaitan out of you heart. It’s not about looking beautiful in hijab (neither is it about looking ugly). It’s about knowing that God is the MOST important and central in your life.
And sure some of us are in areas where seeing a Muslim woman is not that common. But hey, someone has to be first right? Be strong so that future muslim woman can be confident too when they enter the field.
Salaam Sister,
Stay motivated to wear hijab! I am currently in law school and I started wearing mid-way though law school. Recently, I competed in an oral advocacy competition – in front of students, professors, lawyers, judges – I represented my esteemed law school in a nation wide competition. I am the ONLY hijabie at my school and I was the ONLY hijabie at that competition.
iA pray to Allah to give you strength! Your hijab will not hold you back from achieving anything, rather it will give you the strength to do anything you want.
Remember, the grass seems greener on the other side. I know so many sisters who wish they had the strength to wear hijab. mA you have been blessed!
Salaam Dear Sister,
iA you will have the strength to carry on wearing hijab.
However, do not ever think that it will hold you back! I started wearing mid-year through law school. I am the ONLY hijabie at my law school. I was selected to in a prestigious oral advocacy competition (moot court) and had to represent my entire school at a national competition. I was the ONLY hijabie at my school. Do not ever think that hijab will hold you back.
Remember, the grass looks greener on the other side. iA you will have the strength to carry on.
Good Luck! You can do it!
When we start to NOT feel like doing certain things like hijab or even prayer, we gotta question our whole existence..like why am i here. wahts my purpose. and if i believe in God and the last day am i actively feeding my iman daily or am i basicaly living a very heedless lifestyle?
if we don’t feed our souls with worship that is totally set out in the sunnah for us, we will feel empty inside, little motivation etc.
trust me if you take off your hijab, shaitan will not stop at that. he will come and question u about something else haram u stay away from or about leaving something fardh u do like prayer.
u also need to look at yur environment . is your environment helping you to worship Allah for which we were created? if not, why are you there? if your top priority(worshipping Allah) is getting seriously affected in the process of reaching a secondary priority, you gotta give this some serous thought.
just some thoughts. =)
Aslaamualikum Wa Rahmatullah
First of all I am making to Allah that you keep it on only for his pleasure. It was hard for me to keep my hijab on, but about five years ago in the month of ramadon I listend to the translation of the holy quran. It helped me so much because now I heard it my self that it is an order from GOD and not people. And I have it on only for his pleasure. May Allah make it easy for you to keep it on. Inshallah