May ALLAH bless the person who wrote this article,i should say this article shivers on my body.

Jazakaallah khairan

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Yep avoiding people does work. The weirdest thing.. I find myself a lot more at peace when I avoid gatherings of women. The irony.. :/

lol that’s some narrowing down! Missed you too

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Brilliant advice! Baaraka’Allaaho feeki. It is soo easy to fall into gossip/backbiting which is why I like to avoid people altogether. And hey, it actually works!

I don’t suppose you’ll ever guess who I might be? Okay so I’ll narrow down the number of people from 6 billion plus to the handful you kinda know. Hmm… could you email me, sis? It’d be great to catch up, insha’Allaah. Missed ya =(

Hope you’re doing well, insha’Allaah and of course, great site!

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When you say you can do nothing but listen, you’re wrong there sis. You can never be forced to listen to someone gossiping unless they put a gun to your head. Walk away. Thats one way to show your displeasure at what those sisters indulge in. Before you walk away though, you should do your best to stop them from backbiting and gossiping. Advise them gently without being self-righteous and condescending as I’ve noticed some people do that when critiquing others.

With regards to your second question, there’s a hadeeth: The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu `alayhi wasallam) said: “Religion is sincerity” They said, “To whom, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “To Allaah and to His Book, to His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.”

If the person you’re warning against has committed major sins openly then according to the scholars its waajib upon us to advise others to stay away from mingling with those who commit evil acts AND at the same time, the one who commits those sins should be advised in hopes that Allaah might guide him/her.

But its important to note here that mentioning others faults IS backbiting unless its like the case above. Its not considered to be backbiting if you’re complaining to someone who can help you settle the situation between you and the person who harmed you. Please refer to these links below for detailed answers:

http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/7660/backbiting
http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/105470/backbiting
http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/105391/backbiting

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Very good article right here. I have witnessed and sometimes blindly participated in gossip. I try hard to abstain from it and realised that it was much easier to do when i didnt hang out with a group of people. The issue im dealing with is that i will be with a group of muslim sisters yet they will be hating on one who isnt present, i can do nothing but listen – at once i was told to stay away from someone who they had disowned from the group. I want to knw, when is backbiting backbiting, if someone has hurt me within the group and i tell someone else what they did, is that gossip? Because ive noticed that it usually starts that way…

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Indeed, when the mind is too idle, and the heart is weak – the mouth will keep on spewing all kinds of nonsense. Women should strive to fill their minds with new knowledge, and busy their hands learning new skills while keep feeding their souls with gentle reminders like the contain of this article.

Keep up the good work!

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