Comments on: The Lost “Thank You” http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/ Sun, 05 Sep 2010 09:48:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Aishah http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-6807 Aishah Fri, 31 Jul 2009 14:03:35 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-6807 Asalaamu Alaikum Miss Masha Allah....lol...that is so cute! Yes I have read too that we must say masha Allah instead of thank you and this is great with muslims but what happens with non-muslims? That's a difficult situation. Try answering as God wills it and they will be very perplexed. I did tell some non-muslims about masha Allah on the internet before and they thought it was great and better than thank you. Has anyone here ever tried using it with non-muslims? I don't like saying thank you because it seems like you did something that you didn't especially when it refers to how God created you and not any act that you did. As for giving compliments my mother (non-muslim) always told me that when you see something nice about someone to go tell them. So I always do and I think this is one way that nips envy in the bud because you acknowledge something good about them before you can even have a chance to feel anything else. And doesn't islam say you should love for your brother what you love for yourself?<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6807">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Asalaamu Alaikum

Miss Masha Allah….lol…that is so cute! Yes I have read too that we must say masha Allah instead of thank you and this is great with muslims but what happens with non-muslims? That’s a difficult situation. Try answering as God wills it and they will be very perplexed. I did tell some non-muslims about masha Allah on the internet before and they thought it was great and better than thank you. Has anyone here ever tried using it with non-muslims? I don’t like saying thank you because it seems like you did something that you didn’t especially when it refers to how God created you and not any act that you did. As for giving compliments my mother (non-muslim) always told me that when you see something nice about someone to go tell them. So I always do and I think this is one way that nips envy in the bud because you acknowledge something good about them before you can even have a chance to feel anything else. And doesn’t islam say you should love for your brother what you love for yourself?

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]]> By: The Lost “Thank You” « iamsheba http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-6473 The Lost “Thank You” « iamsheba Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:01:07 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-6473 [...] Heba’s article on how to give compliments here. del.icio.us Digg it reddit StumbleUpon July 22nd by admin 0 Comments Posted in [...]<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6473">0</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p>

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]]> By: Umm Zakiyyah http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-6462 Umm Zakiyyah Wed, 22 Jul 2009 11:32:41 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-6462 MashaaAllaah, nice article. BarakAllaahufeeki, ukhti. I'd like to add that the person receiving the compliment, not just the one offering it, can say "tabarakAllaah" or "maashAllaah" in response. This is better than "Thank you." Also, in the Sunnah, the du'aa we should say after hearing praise is this: "O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say. Forgive me for what they have no knowledge of, and make me better than they imagine." Of course, this du'aa is between you and Allah and is not to be said to the person offering the praise, and it addresses all the discomfort we naturally experience in the face of praise. Because, after all, we don't deserve the praise. Allah does.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-6462">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> MashaaAllaah, nice article. BarakAllaahufeeki, ukhti.

I’d like to add that the person receiving the compliment, not just the one offering it, can say “tabarakAllaah” or “maashAllaah” in response. This is better than “Thank you.”

Also, in the Sunnah, the du’aa we should say after hearing praise is this:

“O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say. Forgive me for what they have no knowledge of, and make me better than they imagine.”

Of course, this du’aa is between you and Allah and is not to be said to the person offering the praise, and it addresses all the discomfort we naturally experience in the face of praise.
Because, after all, we don’t deserve the praise. Allah does.

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]]> By: WM http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-5965 WM Sun, 12 Jul 2009 16:37:59 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-5965 If a man said anything about the way I looked, I'd call him a faggot.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-5965">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> If a man said anything about the way I looked, I’d call him a faggot.

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]]> By: Maverick http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-5961 Maverick Sun, 12 Jul 2009 13:59:47 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-5961 salaams I tell guys if they're uncomfortable with figuring out what to say in return, then a standard and easy way is to return it in kind. So the guy could say "oh hey thanks! Lookin pretty snappy yourself bro!" I dunno if it would be the same for women. Maybe the one receiving the compliment could say "awww thanks! You're lookin like Miss Mashallah yourself!"<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-5961">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> salaams

I tell guys if they’re uncomfortable with figuring out what to say in return, then a standard and easy way is to return it in kind. So the guy could say “oh hey thanks! Lookin pretty snappy yourself bro!”

I dunno if it would be the same for women. Maybe the one receiving the compliment could say “awww thanks! You’re lookin like Miss Mashallah yourself!”

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]]> By: abrother http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-5939 abrother Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:12:01 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-5939 maybe at the core of the issue is we're not being grateful enough to Allah. if someone compliments us we can say alhamdulillah, mashaAllah like the author said, or kindly deflect the compliment by complimenting someone else, etc. jazakAllah khair for the article though and especially the pointers at the end.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-5939">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> maybe at the core of the issue is we’re not being grateful enough to Allah. if someone compliments us we can say alhamdulillah, mashaAllah like the author said, or kindly deflect the compliment by complimenting someone else, etc. jazakAllah khair for the article though and especially the pointers at the end.

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]]> By: AlDaEah http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-5878 AlDaEah Fri, 10 Jul 2009 08:56:29 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-5878 Sister, I have dealt with this same situation before and the way I handled it is to tell my friend that I care for her very much and would never mislead her, and that whenever she rejects my compliments it is as if she is telling me I am a liar and it hurts. My friend was taken aback by my comment and later acknowledged that she understands my point of view. Since then, she gingerly says a thank you when I compliment her and we exchange a knowing glance. She is still not able to believe it herself - that she is beautiful - but at least it is a first step.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-5878">3</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Sister, I have dealt with this same situation before and the way I handled it is to tell my friend that I care for her very much and would never mislead her, and that whenever she rejects my compliments it is as if she is telling me I am a liar and it hurts. My friend was taken aback by my comment and later acknowledged that she understands my point of view. Since then, she gingerly says a thank you when I compliment her and we exchange a knowing glance. She is still not able to believe it herself – that she is beautiful – but at least it is a first step.

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]]> By: A'ishah http://www.muslimahsource.org/personal-development/the-lost-%e2%80%9cthank-you%e2%80%9d/#comment-5714 A'ishah Mon, 06 Jul 2009 09:15:50 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=1046#comment-5714 Thank you for saying this. I personally have a problem taking compliments, partly because I have always had issues with self-esteem that I am only coming to terms with slowly. It also seems to be a "thing" - at least where I live in America...well, really, it seems it's practically considered egotistical these days to accept a compliment, especially with an inkling that one believes the truth behind it. At least, that's what scares me. I have this sister who is just amazing, who I look up to. She helped me so much when I first reverted and she's still an amazing friend and guide. I know it upsets me because she never accepts compliments from me and always says things about how we should be humble, as Muslims, and points out her shortcomings, as she sees them. She's been having some trouble with things the last couple of years, especially because she's unmarried as of yet and she (and her parents) want her to be. But she really is beautiful inside and out, masha'Allah. Is there any way we can help others come to accept compliments? At least situations like these, and articles like yours, help me see what others are going through when we don't accept their compliments.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-5714">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Thank you for saying this. I personally have a problem taking compliments, partly because I have always had issues with self-esteem that I am only coming to terms with slowly. It also seems to be a “thing” – at least where I live in America…well, really, it seems it’s practically considered egotistical these days to accept a compliment, especially with an inkling that one believes the truth behind it. At least, that’s what scares me.

I have this sister who is just amazing, who I look up to. She helped me so much when I first reverted and she’s still an amazing friend and guide. I know it upsets me because she never accepts compliments from me and always says things about how we should be humble, as Muslims, and points out her shortcomings, as she sees them. She’s been having some trouble with things the last couple of years, especially because she’s unmarried as of yet and she (and her parents) want her to be. But she really is beautiful inside and out, masha’Allah. Is there any way we can help others come to accept compliments? At least situations like these, and articles like yours, help me see what others are going through when we don’t accept their compliments.

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