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but saba you have learned your lesson by committing this heinous mistake, may allah forgiv you and grant you with a person who could understand your position and accept your good deeds by forgiving for your sin.

but question is that—it you are a man and still virgin….would you accept a non virgin women??? and how would you trust that she will obey you for rest of er life. (though once she has betrayed you before marriage)

this is a critical question.”virginity” specially of women
even in western countries where sex before marriage in not a big issue.
men are willing to marry virgin women…so it is not a question to declare ISLAM as the only contender who emphasis to avoid ZINA.
ISLAM is a religion , a path to live a pure life, and QURAN is the guide to illustrate the way to live , to react, to justify your activities.

may allah give patience to young generation to pacify their will in the light of quran & hadith.

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“WM”
I totally agree with you on this beard issue with a lot of sisters even those with hijab but not all the sisters are same as not all of us brothers are same in what we are looking for in a spouse. I am still the same person Alhamdullilah and I look great with the beard even better then when I was clean shaven. Alhamdullilah! there was only 1 guy (Muslim) who said it doesn’t suit me but rest of the people who I deal with on day to day told me that it looks great Masha Allah. These people never complemented me when I was clean shaven on “how do I look” and neither do I care now how people will react especially being in the West, I am only doing this for my Allah Almighty and following the Sunnah of my beloved Prophet (PBUH).
The best thing about my beard is that it helps me to watch my action more carefully even though I have never been into drugs ,girls, clubbing, party lifestyle before but still we commit sins which are not that big and they go unnoticed.
May Allah help us all stay on the right path and seek his mercy and help us to become among those people who he has blessed (Amin)

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First of all, Don’t worry about what happened in the past, You were just 13 and you don’t know anything, so that boy just took an advantage of your innocence. Forget everything about what happened and stand-up against all your weaknesses and fear. Allah is always with you, within you, around you and everywhere so Why you are worried. Its not your mistake at all. You feel very guilty for what happened than Why you are that much worried. What happened was the past and due to that past why you are spoiling your present. You know there is one proverb : “Past never come back, future we never seen yet, What we are now is Present and thats why Its called Present!!!!!”. Do you think you can fix your problem by being worried or being weak?. Do you think what you did is biggest mistake of your entire life and you will not have any happiness in your entire life due to the mistake????. Just look around you, Look around your strength, Don’t think what you don’t have, Think What you have, Think What you can do now, Think which are possibilities in the future for the better life. When We are children, we fall down several times, sometimes it hurts on skin and does we stop at that time to walk again?. does we thinking about those scars of falling down entire life???. No, We just start walking again and forgot about those scars or problems or obstacles we faced in the life and we move on, We learn from those experiences and moving forward in the life.

If you really want to live your life with full of happiness then you must concentrate on your positive points, on your skills, on your strength given by god. You know that our body is made of billions of cells, do you know in every couple of years entire body cells are changed with new ones????. don’t you think in last 5 years your entire body cells have been replaced with new cells?. so why you are worried?. If virginity is only a thing, if its broken, its okay, its not then also its okay. You know virginity can be broken by other causes also. And most of all, Life is not virginity!!!!!!!!!!, Life is much more or above those things. VIRGINITY IS ONLY tiny PART OF THE LIFE, ITS NOT THE HEART OF THE LIFE!!!.

Fall in love with yourself Love your life and also love your family with all your heart, Love almighty God and You will be free from all Worries and Problems, you are unique in this entire world, do you think anyone else can be like you???.

Regarding to that boy who used your innocence and now treating you as a dirty person, Question is why you even giving a chance to let him to talk with you or to dis-respect you???. You are Young and mature person, Why don’t you concentrate on your Study and On your Goals instead of listening shit things from Him. In the future, If he try to call you or contact you, don’t give a chance for that, Ignorance is the best for such people once they understood that we are not giving any attention to their talk/thoughts/behavior, they will leave us soon.

Find what is best in you and follow it by your heart. Don’t worry about such people who likes to humiliate and teasing for others mistake, they will not reach to anywhere and they also don’t want others to reach their goals. I really want to suggest you to follow your study, follow your skills and show to the world that you are the best even though you had bad experience in the life, Arise, Awake and Don’t stop until you reach to your Goal. You will see that people will give you respect and Honor for your Glory and Success.

We are blessed ones, It entirely depend on us How we treat ourself, Question is what you want to be, sinner or winner in the life?. Everyday in morning ask to yourself how you want to pass your entire day – do you want to pass your day as weak person or as very strong person?. choice is yours.

Wish you best by heart,

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Repentance for your sin is between you and Allah swt. But don’t go asking for people to punish you. There is no real shariah law here, so who even has the authority to punish?

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what is the most significant thing for a man or women in this temporary world, where we all are being examined by Allah (subahanallahu ta’ala)? Is it not that we may get forgiveness from Allah? Yes, And Allah says he will forgive every sins except “shirk”(taking partners associate with him). We will commit sin it is natural, but Allah wants that whenever we sinned we immediately ask for forgiveness and repent for our sin.

Allah has assigned punishment for some sins. If someone committed that kind of sin and really repents for it and want to get forgiveness from Allah, then that one must accept the punishment what Allah has assigned.

Why punishment is needed? To make it understandable I am giving an example; suppose, there is an electric wire and electricity is passing through it. If someone touches it while unaware about it then wont it shock? Obviously it will.

Accepting the punishment will purify the sinner and also abstains him/her from doing that again. Suppose, some one drank Alcohol, so the punishment for him/her is 80 lashes. If the sinner truly repents then he/she will accept the punishment also. After being punished what would be the psychology and mental state of the sinner. The sinner will think before taking alcohol the next time that “I have already repented for it, and if I do this mistake again, then this time also I have to go through all the punishment, no way!” thus Allah will prevent him/her from doing that mistake. Now let analyze what will be the psychology and mental state of the people who are witnessed of that punishment. They will think that if this man/women conceal this sin we might not be able to find out about it, but he/she is truly fears Allah most, and that is why he/she did not conceal it. Thus they will consider him/her highly for his/her faith.

So, by punishment Allah is purifying and also glorifying the sinner. Actually it is also a test after committing those sins that, whether the sinner accepting the punishment or concealing it fearing people, status and situation rather than Allah. Indeed Allah gives status honor and everything we need and have.

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Hats of to us Maverick..I really hope there are more men out there like u..I would like to share my two cents thoughts with u..

1. Firstly,marriage is the matter of the hearts which is built fully on adjustment, compromising and acceptance.

2. No one is perfect, every one of us have our flaws and sins that allah has kept concealed..If HE is ready to forgive and forget our sins,then who are we to condemn and criticise others who have erred and repented? If we truly reflect back our own actions and sins, then will we not judge others about their sins!!
We tend to forget who are are and our own sins, that’s why we talk badly about those who repented!

3.What is our guaranetee that we will die in a state of purity that is accepted by Allah swt? Do we know before hand about our future? We have to continously ask dua and renew our Imaan..to live with Imaan n die with shaahadah..only allah knows best about us..our past,present and future

4.Dear sisters and brothers of Islam, please do not condone any one for their sins, especially if they have repented and feel remorseful..show them the faith of Allah..the mercy of allah swt is bigger than our sins..may allah shower his mercy to all of us..

5. Please do not make a mockery about those who have sinned or is making mistakes..Dua for those people if you come across any..Allah is the holder of all things, if HE wills, he can change a good person into bad and vice versa…so pls pls do not judge or comment about anyone’s lifestyle or character or personalities..

6.Allah has made each and everyone of us different..we all need his blessings and mercy,barakah and rahamath..if we hide the sins of our fellow brothers/sisters, allah will hide our sins in the day of judgement!

Wassalam

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