I think I will now wake up from my dream, get out of my little dreamy box. And face reality.

I just hope I meet Prince Charming … I mean *Mr Right* very soon.

Maryam

Jazak’Allahu khair

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As’salamu Alaikum – thanks for the comments thus far. In response to the last comment above, I would say that I do agree with you %100

The point, though, is to help sisters understand that real love is NOT just based on nice feelings, “warm fuzzies, ” this isn’t where it ends.

Love, mature love, the kind of love required for a marriage to thrive, must go beyond that.

Today, many people end in divorce because they think, and this includes Muslims too, that when those feelings aren’t there all the time, or fade, that it’s a sign they “fell out of love,” and married the wrong person.

The awareness needs to be developed from now to understand the difference between the in-love stage, and true and lasting love that sustains a marriage.

Perhaps when you read the rest of the articles, you’ll understand which direction the whit and are going in

As for the question about whether or not to prevent children from watching these movies…. I think it is best, if they are going to watch something at all, for it to be at ages where they are mature enough to grasp the meaning (otherwise why bother having them watch the movie to begin with!) and be there with them to explain which parts aren’t in line with the life of a Muslim.

The world is out there, and having a little girl makes it almost impossible that she will not want to play princess or be attracted to all the princess images out there. Balance and hikmah + gentleness go a long way.

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I find your ideas of falling in love to be extremely out of touch with reality. Doesn’t everyone love someone for the way they feel around the other person? I don’t love my husband because he’s good at balancing a checkbook–I love him ‘cuz Allah placed love and mercy between our hearts. And that love is unexplainable. Why should love have to be so practical? What is a practical reason to love someone?

And who is to say that if someone makes you feel warm and fuzzy around them, that you don’t also love them for being a good Muslim. Why stamp out the warm-fuzzy feelings? Love is uncontrollable, but our actions are. So long as a girl doesn’t act upon her feelings, I say let her feel the non-sensical warm fuzzies.

And why would a practicing Muslim girl know anything about any man until they get married? That’s the only time you really get to know one another. Up until you get married, your love for each other, and your feelings for each other are completely unreasonable, nonsensical and baseless. But they exist, so who cares! Those are feelings given to us by Allah, and we should love those feelings.

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I absolutley love, and agree with your article!

Just one question, may i please have your personal opinion, (In accordance with the Sunnah) what we should look for, exactly, or what YOU looked for. And How did you, or should you feel about him at the time.

How do you not fall in love, but know he`s Mr. right, of course Istikhara should be done, but still i fear i will go with those warm fuzzy feelings rather than reality.

Jazakallahu Kheir sister!
May Allah bless your efforts

Amina

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ALOT of people need to read this…

well written mashallah!

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