Articles filed under Personal Development
It sometimes hurts to tell my story…
…but I know it is my duty to share it. All of us. To bring the skeletons in our closets into the light. To build an honest narrative of our ummah. To know which problems we must address with the help and mercy of Allah (swt). Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem I feel sorry for whoever will read my childhood diary. Deathly sorry. It’s so biased. It’s filled with pages and ink blots of grief. But that’s not my... Read More →
Taming the Tongue
By: Mariam Al-Kalby Most of us have done it. We do it when we want revenge. Or to make people laugh. We do it out of peer pressure. Or to make ourselves feel better. Without even realizing it, many of us backbite – we take out our fangs and plunge the serrated edges deep into the flesh of evil. As Islam teaches, backbiting is wrong and a major sin. Backbiting, or gheebah in Arabic, is when a person talks about someone... Read More →
Flat Tires?
“A lot of people, especially sisters, when they get married are no longer as active in da’wah. They become like flat tires. They were once inflated and exciting and doing this and doing that, then they get married and you never hear about them again. Don’t be a flat tire! And don’t be the obstacle for your spouse that causes them to be a flat tire!” -Sh. Waleed Basyouni, Torch Bearers This is... Read More →
Needs Don’t Have Servants in this Castle
Part 6: Searching for Mr. Right You could marry a prince, live in a nice castle and never have to lift your fingers again to wash a dish, but no matter how much money and maids and servants, there is one thing you must do alone: meet his needs. Yes, his needs. Your man is looking forward to a wife who will take care of him and serve him. Sure sure…. He will never say that in the initial “interview” you will have... Read More →
The Fairy Tale that Never Was…
Part 4: Searching for Mr. Right Hollywood is full of love stories in nearly every film. Love stories that are about finding the right person, and after that, it’s smooth sailing. Love is beautiful. Love feels amazing. Love, however, is not something that just happens. It never has been, and it never will be. That part of the fairytale is an absolute lie. Yes, a lie. Falling “in love” exists, but what we need to... Read More →
Marriage Mermaid Style
Part 3: Searching for Mr. Right Do you remember that part in the movie where the Little Mermaid decides that she has to marry this strange human guy she saved on the beach? Well, maybe she didn’t say she had to marry him from the get go, but she, in all her fascination, falls in love with him from that brief encounter (here we go again.) Now honestly, I know he was supposed to be all handsome and what not, but this... Read More →
Ameer Charming
Part 2: Searching for Mr. Right If you are waiting for Prince Charming, or as I like to call him “Ameer Charrrrming” (roll those r’s!) to come and whisk you away in into the land of happily-ever-after, all I have to say, is “uh oh.” You are about to be one damsel in distress. Sure, you may not be locked up in a tower somewhere, screaming for help. You will, however, have locked yourself into a cage and thrown... Read More →
The Stupid Glass Slipper
Part 1: Searching for Mr. Right I think I am going to make a few enemies right now when I say that Disney is not my favorite place to find “halaified” entertainment. I have, over the years, grown utterly disgusted by all of the female roles that lead to a love affair turned marriage and the whole happily ever after thing. My daughter, for example, who just turned seven keeps on asking me why I won’t show her the... Read More →
Focus in on the Sunshine
Contentment with little, and gratitude for what you have are virtues. Despite realizing their importance, and not being very worldly, in my heart these virtues always seemed a bit out of reach. I’d feign content, so that perhaps I wouldn’t be counted amongst the ungrateful ones. I was content that I was alone surrounded by people who didn’t understand, and didn’t care to understand. I was content... Read More →
Sticky Note Reminder
I love sticky note shopping. Choosing the right color, the right size and even having fun with the shapes they come in. But what I love most about stick notes is how they rescue my fragile memory. And do I just admire those sticky notes and put them in a drawer or a pencil case? No! I put them on the wall, on the fridge, and (my favorite) all over my laptop! Your Hijab is a sticky note—as a matter of fact, it may be... Read More →
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