Comments on: Beaten in The Name of God

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 07:12:12 +0000

This is an eye opener. I'm shock to see that when a sister has been violently attacked in any way, suddenly people talk to her less, don't give advice, nor recommend even a ayaah form the Quran to read nothing all they say is "be patient" if even, the one time in the persons life they may really need help and attention, to really stand up for themselves they are told to take the hits (and do nothing)! We are like Scum floating on water! The fact people don't want to talk about this or even care and worse try to hide it is proof enough that we are like scum!

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By: Holly Garza

Holly Garza — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 00:01:19 +0000

Walikom salaam I see why you feel this way it is hard enough being Muslim but hiding it under the carpet won't help those going through it either? Did you read the article? InshaAllah you did-if you read the comments you will see you're point was brought up. We are NOT saying it is a Muslim problem or that Muslims think it's right we are discussing what if and when it does happen. Not preparing for a tornado does not make one go away, not talking of Domestic violence does not make it dissapear.

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By: Holly Garza

Holly Garza — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:58:29 +0000

MashaAllah! Very well said and so true! We women do think with our "feelings" for the most part

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By: Holly Garza

Holly Garza — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:55:50 +0000

Salaam Alaikum I agree brother Asif so many times I thank Allah for sending me great sisters and for granting me the blessing of being able to easily meet and greet and the internet and phone to keep in touch.

However how many people get “lost” in Islam people hug and cry when people take shahadah and maybe reach out once and then Poof they dissapear? We do need to reach out and keep in touch (now don’t go stalking the person calling five times a day but you know really try to say hey at least 2 or 3 times)

InshaAllah all of us reading and participating can take something from each other and implement it.

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By: Holly Garza

Holly Garza — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:51:20 +0000

hahahahah a group of brothers with baseball bats Nice! i had the same evil thoughts in my head when I read the comment about a group of brothers in CA to set the men straight! However on a more realistic approach most women "love" their husbands and do not want them beaten. so unfortunately we can leave the mob like thoughts for those in the mob. As if this worked DV would not be as big of an issue because women would call their brothers (I would call mine if I wanted my "hubby" beaten) or cousins if this was the case, sadly there is no "fix" except education and trying to one at a time teach the aunties, uncles, and children of ours that this is NOT proper behavior nor is it Islamic or realistic to blame the women or to have women carry the "divorce stigma" Will it be easy? no but InshaAllah if we all use the mouth and fingers Allah gave us one by one we can teach it to everyone little by little.

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By: Holly Garza

Holly Garza — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:43:13 +0000

Always!! Not only my opinion but in Islam it is NOT permissible to "beat" you're wife. The Sheik said it is a problem that existed before Islam that's why in the Qu'ran it was address as in "if they (the women you're wives)"disobey" then "Wasribuhun" them" which is translated into English as beat them with a stick.! I am quoting Sheik Yaser Birjas "If a sister fears for her safety, well being, and or even life she should call 911" The Sheik said that Wasribuhun in Arabic does NOT mean beat but gently tap with something the size of a toothbrush with out you're elbow leaving your side how could you "beat" someone that way, you can't; therefore it's useless there is NO Domestic violence promoted in True Islam. This was in his LOVE NOTES Marriage and family Life Class taught through Al Maghrib Institute which was awesome

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By: Hannah

Hannah — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:05:21 +0000

As-salam Alaikum, I'm not quite sure what the purpose of this post is supposed to be?? Pick up any novel about Afghanistan and you'll read the same garbage. Please Muslimahs don't defame the religion more than it already has. Ignorance has nothing to do with being "beaten in the name of God". Don't put yourselves down by reading/writing this kind of venom. Muslim men, like Muslim women are NOT perfect. I can understand how this happens in third world countries, because of the widespread ignorance about their own religion and a sad affect of culture, and also how domestic violence occurs in Europe and the States, however our job is to share what Muslim men can, ARE and SHOULD be like according to the true teachings of Islam. Even if that means sharing stories about good Muslim husbands -- yes THEY DO EXIST! SO PLEASE, take down this article!

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By: Maverick

Maverick — Wed, 27 May 2009 18:03:23 +0000

You'll notice I wasn't talking about all men, just a certain group; the ones who specifically reject a sister because she's a divorcee. Even though she's of an appropriate age, deeny, educated, from a good family, good characters, etc etc

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By: Maverick

Maverick — Wed, 27 May 2009 18:01:57 +0000

Women think emotionally more often than they do logically, and men think logically more often than they do emotionally. That's the difference between the two genders in how their brains work.

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By: WM

WM — Wed, 27 May 2009 09:12:03 +0000

'Another thing a lot of guys need to change is the whole obsession with marrying fresh goods.' I think it's wrong to place the blame here. Very often brothers are free of these prejudices but, unfortunately, our parents aren't. And if your mother has told you (as mine has)- 'marry a _____[black/south Asian/divorcee delete as appropriate] woman and I'll never speak to you again', don't you think it makes sense to avoid those groups?

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