Comments on: By Silence Betrayed http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/ Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:34:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: AnonyMouse http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-1693 AnonyMouse Tue, 07 Apr 2009 04:32:23 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-1693 Series on sexual abuse and molestation on MuslimMatters.org: http://muslimmatters.org/2009/02/16/sex-the-ummah-child-molestation-in-the-muslim-world-myth-or-reality-part-i/ Insha'Allah with the publication and distribution of such articles, which tackle the subject from an Islamic point of view, there will be greater awareness and a stronger campaign against such monstrosity.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-1693">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Series on sexual abuse and molestation on MuslimMatters.org: http://muslimmatters.org/2009/02/16/sex-the-ummah-child-molestation-in-the-muslim-world-myth-or-reality-part-i/

Insha’Allah with the publication and distribution of such articles, which tackle the subject from an Islamic point of view, there will be greater awareness and a stronger campaign against such monstrosity.

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]]> By: Amin B http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-1387 Amin B Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:32:56 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-1387 If we dont act proactively to stop theses abuses and bring the perpetrators of these heinous acts to account than the kuffar will use our silence and inaction to criticize Islam . Below is one fine example of how a muslim turns to non muslims to seek justice. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7966086.stm<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-1387">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> If we dont act proactively to stop theses abuses and bring the perpetrators of these heinous acts to account than the kuffar will use our silence and inaction to criticize Islam . Below is one fine example of how a muslim turns to non muslims to seek justice.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7966086.stm

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]]> By: Kendra J. http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-996 Kendra J. Wed, 11 Mar 2009 12:14:12 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-996 This story rings an all too familiar experience to me. It saddens me that Muslims today brush the topic of sexual abuse under the rug and if they do mention it, its nothing more than 3 minute topic. There lies a problem with that, because many Muslims turn a blind eye to sexual abuse, our sisters are suffering both mentally and physically.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-996">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> This story rings an all too familiar experience to me. It saddens me that Muslims today brush the topic of sexual abuse under the rug and if they do mention it, its nothing more than 3 minute topic. There lies a problem with that, because many Muslims turn a blind eye to sexual abuse, our sisters are suffering both mentally and physically.

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]]> By: Roberta D http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-392 Roberta D Tue, 17 Feb 2009 11:39:34 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-392 Of course marriage is an important outlet when it comes to restraining sexual desire/channeling it appropriately, but outside of harassment, there's the wider issue of molestation and rape of minors and other women that occurs not in the street but in homes and other private places, often by relatives or "trusted" friends and acquaintances. There are sick people out there, married and not, and issues like pedophilia, incest, etc. can't be solved by marriage. General harassment in the streets, while wrong, annoying and violating, doesn't hold a candle to other forms of abuse that are often ritual/repeated. In terms of what can be done, I think families need to realize that you shouldn't trust anyone with your children unnecessarily. There's no reason for relatives to be spending vast amounts of one-on-one time with little girls and boys. Of course family time is important, but that can just as easily happen in group settings or in public places. And people should be just as vigilant over their young male and female children.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-392">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Of course marriage is an important outlet when it comes to restraining sexual desire/channeling it appropriately, but outside of harassment, there’s the wider issue of molestation and rape of minors and other women that occurs not in the street but in homes and other private places, often by relatives or “trusted” friends and acquaintances. There are sick people out there, married and not, and issues like pedophilia, incest, etc. can’t be solved by marriage. General harassment in the streets, while wrong, annoying and violating, doesn’t hold a candle to other forms of abuse that are often ritual/repeated.

In terms of what can be done, I think families need to realize that you shouldn’t trust anyone with your children unnecessarily. There’s no reason for relatives to be spending vast amounts of one-on-one time with little girls and boys. Of course family time is important, but that can just as easily happen in group settings or in public places. And people should be just as vigilant over their young male and female children.

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]]> By: Amin B http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-384 Amin B Mon, 16 Feb 2009 23:47:33 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-384 All I am saying is that men should not remain unmarried because they cant afford wedding expenses. Many times these abuses happen by those who are unmarried and I think once they are married they will stay away from it. And now a days wedding ceremonies require alot of money, so if state or charitable organizations sponsor mass weddings than it will make it easy for new couples to start their new life. In the bbc article one of the reason why there were so many sexual abuses in Egypt was wedding expenses being too high.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-384">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> All I am saying is that men should not remain unmarried because they cant afford wedding expenses. Many times these abuses happen by those who are unmarried and I think once they are married they will stay away from it. And now a days wedding ceremonies require alot of money, so if state or charitable organizations sponsor mass weddings than it will make it easy for new couples to start their new life.
In the bbc article one of the reason why there were so many sexual abuses in Egypt was wedding expenses being too high.

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]]> By: Saima M http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-380 Saima M Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:00:56 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-380 You're right Sammer. It is the most least addressed topic and I can't understand why. Amin, I'm sure I'm missing something here.. please help me understand. When you say "sponsoring mass weddings to help newly weds with financial costs.." how does that reduce the risk of sexual abuse? I definitely agree with creating jobs to lower the unemployment rate especially in Pakistan and other South Asian countries. What other practical steps do you guys think can be taken to lower the risk of rape and molestation amongst Muslims?<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-380">1</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> You’re right Sammer. It is the most least addressed topic and I can’t understand why.

Amin, I’m sure I’m missing something here.. please help me understand. When you say “sponsoring mass weddings to help newly weds with financial costs..” how does that reduce the risk of sexual abuse?

I definitely agree with creating jobs to lower the unemployment rate especially in Pakistan and other South Asian countries.

What other practical steps do you guys think can be taken to lower the risk of rape and molestation amongst Muslims?

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]]> By: Amin B http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-376 Amin B Mon, 16 Feb 2009 17:19:52 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-376 Sexual abuse is a very serious reality in the muslim world. Lets take Egypt as an example as i have been regularly seeing articles on bbc related to sexual abuse in Egypt. "A study by the Egyptian Center for Women's Rights showed 83 percent of Egyptian women and 98 percent of foreign women surveyed said they are sexually harassed. Even more startling: 62.4 percent of men surveyed said they harassed women". Sharia law is indeed the only solution to all the societal problems. There are however other practical financial factors that can reduce the risk of women being sexually abused such as creating jobs to lower unemployment; sponsoring mass weddings to help newly weds with financial costs, lowering bride's price by the bride's family etc.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-376">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> Sexual abuse is a very serious reality in the muslim world. Lets take Egypt as an example as i have been regularly seeing articles on bbc related to sexual abuse in Egypt. “A study by the Egyptian Center for Women’s Rights showed 83 percent of Egyptian women and 98 percent of foreign women surveyed said they are sexually harassed. Even more startling: 62.4 percent of men surveyed said they harassed women”. Sharia law is indeed the only solution to all the societal problems. There are however other practical financial factors that can reduce the risk of women being sexually abused such as creating jobs to lower unemployment; sponsoring mass weddings to help newly weds with financial costs, lowering bride’s price by the bride’s family etc.

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]]> By: Sammer Z. http://www.muslimahsource.org/womens-rights/by-silence-betrayed/#comment-375 Sammer Z. Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:41:32 +0000 http://www.muslimahsource.org/?p=619#comment-375 SubhanAllah , sexual abuse amongst Muslims is probably the least addressed topic out there...by Muslims. Islam values and esteems a Muslimahs honor, and if anyone violates or compromises, we should ready to defend, protect and restore it to her. Thank you for bringing it to the table, Saima.<p class="top-comments">Current score: <span class="top-comments-karma" id="karma-375">2</span> <small>(to vote for this comment, please visit the site)</small></p> SubhanAllah , sexual abuse amongst Muslims is probably the least addressed topic out there…by Muslims. Islam values and esteems a Muslimahs honor, and if anyone violates or compromises, we should ready to defend, protect and restore it to her. Thank you for bringing it to the table, Saima.

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